THE SEX ISSUE What do you find sexually attractive? ‘Brains’
86%
of people had looked at pornography. 74% of
people said that porn
could be used to enhance a healthy
sexual relationship.
‘In the early years I used to look at magazines like Penthouse and Playboy that I found under my parents’ bed. Lately I watch porn on the net, at least weekly. Mainly group sex, with a preference for porn that is non-violent, does not degrade women and treats men and women as equals in the scenario. Porn can enhance a relationship because it can give one fresh ideas that can make a sex life more
exciting. Depending on
personal tastes, it can be viewed together as a mutual stimulant.’
59%
of people in Glasgow have had sex in a public place in their city, compared with 40% in Edinburgh (see panel, below, to find out where). How long do you need to have known someone before having sex?
1% 8.3 %
20.8% 11.5%
58.3%
1% 5.2 %
24% 47.9%
21.9%
GLASGOW
Just met (58.3%)
Days (11.5%)
Weeks (20.8%) Months (8.3%)
Years (1.0%)
EDINBURGH
Just met (47.9%)
Days (21.9%)
Weeks (24.0%) Months (5.2%)
Years (1.0%)
‘I look at straight porn, cam girls, retro porn, facials, double penetration, anal,
fisting . . . loads really.’
‘I’m not sure about watching porn with a partner if I’m honest. Bit of a Pandora’s box, especially if you discover that you and your partner have very different tastes . . .’ ‘Porn demeans those involved in making it; the sex trade is totally corrupt and involved in the abuse of many involved in it and it can be very addictive and damaging to relationships.’
‘You could have just met. Why? Alcohol, alcohol, alcohol. But also just to get the performance anxieties out of the way. The first shag is crap, then as you get to trust each other more, communicate and the sex gets better (that’s an Ask Mariella answer right there).’ ‘When I was younger, I would probably have answered “not long at all”. But over time and with age, I’d be more likely to wait a month or two before sleeping with someone I was attracted to.’
CONTINUED FROM PAGE 15 Responses were collected via an online survey. The survey was anonymous. The List took measures to make sure that answers came from people from a range of ages, sexes and backgrounds.
M O R E A N S W E R S . . .
Have you ever had sex in a public place? ‘Kelvingrove Park, often.’ [A total of five people said they had had sex in Kelvingrove Park.]
Which Scottish celebrity would you most like to have sex with? What do you find sexually attractive?
‘David Tennant. Adorable and mischievous (at least I like to think so).’ ‘Isobel Campbell is seriously hot.’
‘Brains, good shoulders, an ability to understand sarcasm.’ ‘Face and personality, chunky legs and bum, kissable nipples.’
‘Calton Hill during Beltane, and the Meadows.’ [Five people also said they had had sex in the Meadows.] ‘In the comedy section of Borders.’
‘Clare Grogan because I fell for her cutesy girlishness with a hint of punk rebellion ever since I was introduced to her the night Altered Images first entered the charts.’
‘Necropolis graveyard; top of Buchanan Street (near Donald Dewar); various alleyways. Keeping it classy.’ ‘Perhaps Scott Patterson from Sons & Daughters, because he is charismatic, an excellent musician, and comes across as slightly aggressive.’
‘In a doorway up past the Parliament one particularly hot night with my current partner.’ ‘Barry Ferguson. As a Celtic fan I detest him, but there’s something about being drawn to the dark side that I find alluring.’
‘Funny, outgoing, into their music and preferably a beard!’ ‘Their je ne sais quoi, something you can’t pinpoint but it drives you crazy – a look in their eye, sexy perfume, a tidy bush and nice teeth. And they must wear Converse!’
‘1. He could throw a punch. 2. He has good intellect, communication and social skills. 3. He is sane, well balanced and I can relax in his company. 4. He is a rogue.’
What makes ‘good’ sex and why?
‘If everyone was fully committed from start to finish, that’s generally enough.’ ‘Good sex is sex with someone who you love and feel totally at ease with. It’s experimental and fun. There has to be a decent amount of foreplay, and loads of dirty patter. And the guy has to make a cup of tea once it’s over, cheers.’
‘Roughness; spontaneity; MDMA; love.’
‘You should be able to laugh sometimes, and be able to ask for anything and do anything without feeling weird or guilty. It should be about two people really enjoying themselves like they would at a gig or the cinema, but instead its alone, intimate, kind and fun.’ ‘A bloody good blow-job.’
16 THE LIST 3–17 Feb 2011